What Helps?
Things that can help children and young people mentally will include
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being in good physical health, eating a balanced diet and getting regular exercise
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having time and the freedom to play, indoors and outdoors
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being part of a family that gets along well most of the time
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going to a school that looks after the wellbeing of all its pupils
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taking part in local activities for young people
Other factors are also important, including:
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feeling loved, trusted, understood, valued and safe
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being interested in life and having opportunities to enjoy themselves
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being hopeful and optimistic
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being able to learn and having opportunities to succeed
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accepting who they are and recognising what they are good at
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having a sense of belonging in their family, school and community
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feeling they have some control over their own life
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having the strength to cope when something is wrong (resilience) and the ability to solve problems.
What if my child is experiencing difficulties with their mental health and wellbeing?
Mental health doesn’t mean being happy all the time and neither does it mean avoiding stresses altogether. One of the most important ways to help your child is to listen to them and take their feelings seriously.
In many instances, children and young people’s negative feelings and worries usually pass with the support of their parents and families. It is helpful for the school to know what they are going through at these times, so that staff can be aware of the need and support this.
Coping and adjusting to setbacks are critical life skills for children, just as they are for adults, but it is important that they develop positive, rather than negative, coping skills.
If you are ever worried about your child’s mental health and wellbeing then, just as you would about any concerns that you have about their learning, come and talk to us. Sometimes children will need additional support for a short period – this may be in the form of a daily check-in with a trusted adult, time to talk through what they are feeling and support in developing ways of moving forwards with this.
If your child is distressed for a long time, if their negative feelings are stopping them from getting on with their lives, if their distress is disrupting family life or if they are repeatedly behaving in ways you would not expect at their age, then please speak to your child's teacher.
Looking after yourself
If things are getting you down, it’s important to recognise this. Talk to someone you trust and see what they think. It is easy to go on struggling with very difficult situations because you feel that you should be able to cope and don’t deserve any help.
Come and talk to us, in confidence and let us know when things are tough. As much as you try to hide how you are feeling from your child, they will notice even the smallest changes.
Go to your GP if things are really getting on top of you. Asking for some support from your doctor or a referral to a counselling service is a sign of strength. You can’t help your child if you are not being supported yourself.